There is a book out there called “Attached” that clued me into what I was doing in regards to my relationships. Through reading it I found myself to be a solidly secure person. I crave having fun and don’t enjoy sitting idle waiting around. I kept picking the wrong kind of person for me. Often someone avoidant. This type of person shows up and has fun, but is also inconsistent in being emotionally available. Here is a link to the book’s site. It’s a great read!